Cock Rings

cock ringOne of the most popular questions I get about sex toys for men (and couples) is all about cock rings. So, this week, I’m dedicating the blog to putting a ring on it…a cock ring that is.

A cock ring is designed to allow blood to flow into the penis and then keep the blood trapped in the penis for an extended period of time. This produces an erection that doesn’t hang around, but that stays harder, and bigger, longer. A cock ring can work for men who like more intense sensation around the base of their shaft, or around their shaft and balls (think of the guy who cups his fingers around his shaft during a blowjob or hand sex). They also work for men who want to feel more erect, or men who enjoy the experience of more intense orgasms by ejaculating with constriction. In safer sex, a cock ring can be worn over a condom to help ensure the condom stays on during sex. And they’re are also worn by men who are otherwise having a hard time staying hard. However, if erection issues are his problem, then it’s good idea to go to a trained medical professional to make sure a soft dick isn’t Mother Nature’s way of saying that other things are going limp in his body.

Vibrating cock rings work on any of those levels, and they also provide mechanical stimulation to the penis and the partner (if there’s penetration or heavy petting involved).

If this is your first time wearing a cock ring, it’s best not to jump into a hard metal one that barely fits over your cock and balls, unless you don’t mind unexpected trips to the emergency room. While it’s not funny, if a cock ring can’t be cut off, then there is always a chance that, upon panicking, he will have to make a special trip to have the ring surgically removed from his cock and balls. That’s why something stretchy or adjustable, and possibly even vibrating is the best place to start. Or at least something that can be cut away, like silicone.

Whether you’re wearing an adjustable or non-adjustable cock ring, you want to put the ring on his penis before his flag is at full staff. His dick can be flaccid, or semi-erect, but full salutations make getting a cock ring on all the more challenging.

If he’s ready to rock a ring, here’s how to put it on. Start with the ball sac, then the balls, followed by the penis (bend it and pull it through) and then the big finish. The big finish equals pulling the cock ring towards the base of his dick. Of course, he can just wear the ring over the shaft if it’s one of those small, super stretchy ones. And if it is super stretchy, and he has pubic hair, or even if he doesn’t, think about using lube. Sometimes the cock ring material can pull some of the hair off his ball sac, or in the case of men with penis hair, his precious one-eyed willy.

He wants the cock ring to make him a little bigger and harder, but not so big or hard that his head or shaft swells to double the size. If his penis has doubled in size, then the ring is too tight. He should always take the cock ring off if he feels pain or his dick goes cold. He should never wear his ring to sleep or for prolonged periods of time. To start, it’s best to leave it on for around 20 minutes, or until he ejaculates, whichever comes first. If his erection lasts hours, it’s called priapism, and while it may sound like a good time, it can actually cause permanent damage to his erectile tissue. If this happens, it also means it’s time to visit the ER (and yes, they’ve seen it all before).

Men love cock rings for all the aforementioned reasons, and for their own personal ones too. For uncircumcised men, cock rings can be great for holding foreskin back. As one prostate cancer survivor told me, “A good cock ring beats chemical enhancements any day of the week. It also holds the foreskin back for increased sensation and more pleasure while making love for those of you that are not circumcised.”

Another friend told me that he doesn’t only use his cock ring for sex. His semi-secret is wearing one at important meetings. “A student of directing, I remembered the importance of actors having a secret. I contemplated my secret. One night I was pleasuring myself using a cock ring as a sidekick – and this is where it dawned on me. The following week, I had a meeting with a potential investor and decided to go in with my secret. Upon arriving at the cafe, I immediately went to the bathroom to slip on a cock ring. I went all in, wrapping it around my cock as well as my balls. The meeting ensued. I wasn’t erect, though the presence of the ring reminded me of my cock, grounding me in my sense of ‘Man’, or purpose. It proved to be a potent, secretive addition to my pitch.” Just remember to take it off before going through airport security.

And for the ladies, or the men using a strap-on, vibrating cock rings are great enhancements for dildos and harnesses.

He’ll want to use a cock ring if he’s using a penis pump too, since as soon as he pulls his blown-up baton out of the pump it will being to deflate. The debate around the effectiveness of penis pumps is another popular question, and penis pumps often work for as long as he pumps, and then they don’t. Unless he becomes a pumping fanatic and pumps all the time. Then, maybe.

When, how and why to use a cock ring are for you, and your partner, to decide. Cock rings can help delay ejaculation, increase sensation, provide more intense orgasms and get him bigger and harder, but they can also feel good when he’s walking around and wants to be reminded that his dick is dangling in the front of his pants.