Now when you think about the way that movies portray Cougars, they tend to do it with their tongue firmly in their cheek. It’s a little bit strange that although movies about affairs can be venerated and sold as the best love stories of our time, the ones with Cougars tend to get left by the wayside. We have the Graduate, of course and then Stifler’s Mom in American Pie who is throughout the movie basically referred to as Stifler’s Mom, but that’s not really the kind of roles that we want to aspire to.
We know that women who are Cougars are beautiful and they’re strong, independent enough to live without a man but content to have one if they can.
There is a desperation to the way that Cougars are portrayed in Hollywood and while we can’t do anything about that, we can at least talk about the negative perceptions that go along with the idea of “Shelf Life” for women and men alike. Now men tend to have a much longer shelf life when it comes to how they’re thought of and portrayed in the media commonly. It’s unfair, we know, but at least we know that Cougars are nothing to scoff at.
When you consider the celebrities who could be considered Cougars and the gorgeous men that they’ve dated, there’s no doubt that older women still have the mystique that can capture the minds of the younger men that they’re interested in. But when it comes to the younger men who are going after the Cougars, what are you going to do to catch their attention?
You know that you’re going to want to make sure that you present yourself accordingly, but you need to take all the negative stereotypes of Cougars and throw them right out the window. The positive ones can be funny or used for a joke, but generally you need to judge each Cougar as you meet her. Relying on what you know from Hollywood movies (or even worse, pornography) is not going to get you far when you’re trying to impress a Cougar. Remember that you don’t need to be completely smooth and you don’t need to have everything set in place right away.
If a Cougar was looking for a man who had his life completely thought out then she would date someone her own age, so you’re allowed to make mistakes and you’re allowed to trip over yourself once in awhile. It’s endearing and as long as it’s not something that you’re going to make a habit of, we don’t think that any cougar could possibly find it anything but earnest.
You just need to make sure that you don’t fall into those old societal traps that come along with dating an older woman. There are plenty of them that we learn from movies or even just the way that we treat couples who have an age gap. Whether it’s males or females, when we see a younger woman with an older man we assume that she’s after his money. If we see a younger man with an older woman, we assume that she’s preying on him somehow. These negative aspects need to change and you can be a part of it simply by not falling into their trap.
Remember that you’re dating someone who’s older than you and there may be a couple bumps in the road, but as long as you can find common ground you’re going to be just fine. After all, what we look for in people that we like to spend time with has nothing to do with the amount of money that they have or their age. We do it for how they make us feel and how we’re able to connect to them.
So if you’ve been thinking about Stifler’s Mom since you were a teenager it’s time to let it go and find yourself a Cougar who’s more than you ever dreamed of because she’s not just a caricature.