The fact that you like rough sex isn’t something that you would write home about, but there are a good amount of people who would enjoy having rough sex. How rough really depends on the person that you are and what you’re looking to have, but most of us like it when things are more intense because it makes the sensations feel more real. Rough sex tends to mean there’s some real passion behind it and we don’t mean the pansy romance novel passion, but some passion that has you digging your nails into your cubs back and feel almost drunk from the sensations that are running through you.
We’ve talked about the mind before and just how important it is to getting someone aroused because it’s in the mind that the horniness is amplified. Men don’t need it as much as women, but whether you’re a Cougar or a Cub it’s hard to go wrong with arousing the mind as much as you’re getting the body turned on. This means that the thoughts you are thinking when you go into rough sex is the key.
So how do you get your partner to have rough sex with you?
1) Watch pornography.
Everyone’s porn tastes are different and by asking your Cougar to pick the pornography that you’re watching, you’ll get a good idea of what it is that turns her on. Men tend to spend more time searching for pornography than women even if both cougars and cubs probably watch it, so try not to focus so much on what you as a cub want, but what she as a cougar would want from you. You’re much more likely to get rough sex if you can make it appealing to your Cougar as something she wants to have rather than just something that you’re interested in.
2) Sext it up!
We don’t know if you’re the type who would be shy about sexting, but you don’t have to feel like you need to jump right into it. Try testing the waters first, building up a conversation and slowly easing your way into sexting. What this means, cubs, is that you shouldn’t text your Cougar right off the bat going “Man, I want to touch your tits.” We get what you’re trying to say, but women rarely go from zero to sixty in six seconds flat. The more you build up the act and have people thinking about it, the more you’re going to be able to release that passion when the time for sex is upon you.
3) Talk to your Cougar about your fantasies.
You’re going to want to talk when it comes to rough sex. We advocate communication a lot, but since no one is a mind reader you need to make sure that you’re talking up a storm. For some reason, it’s often easier to open up with a stranger about these things, but if you can get your Cougar talking about her own fantasies first it won’t seem so strange for you to chip in about your own. Try to incorporate both of your fantasies into this mix so that both Cougar and Cub are going to have the time of their lives.
4) Turn the brain off.
We’re not saying completely off because you still need to know whether or not something’s wrong, but you should be able to trust your Cougar to tell you whether they like something or not. This may not be the case with all the women that you date, but Cougars have a tendency to speak their mind and if you’re heading toward anal sex when your Cougar doesn’t want it? You’re going to hear about it. You don’t want to be thinking about this so much that it kills the mood for you. Just go with the flow as much as you can. If you want to ask questions about it, you can turn it into pillow talk and get your feedback from your Cougar in that way.